Have You Ever Seen a Cute Girl on the Street That You Want to Talk to… but Are Unable to Mask Her up to Do So?

Now, the reason why you couldn’t go up to her is NOT because you didn’t know what to say.

What’s actually going on is that you’re trying to find the “perfect moment” to happen, and as you’re hesitating, the girl’s already walked off to the distance.

The truth is, you DO know what to say to the girl. All you really need to do is start with “hi”.

So it’s not that you don’t know what to say, but you’re overthinking the situation as to when the right time is to approach the girl.

I see this with a lot of guys, where when they see a girl they wanna talk to, they start debating in their own heads:

‘Oh she’s walking too fast. She looks too busy.’

‘she’s on her phone. I don’t want to interrupt her.’

‘Oh she’s with her friends. I don’t want to look bad in front of her and her friends.’

‘She’s really pretty. She probably already has a boyfriend.’

But the truth is, she is always gonna be doing something. After all she’s not a tree haha.

And that shouldn’t stop you from talking to the girl. Because as you know if you don’t talk to the girl, your chances of taking her on a date is 0%. When you DO talk to the girl - even if she looks busy - you’ll at least get a shot.

So you know logically that it’s better to go talk to her. But why can’t you?

It’s because of perfectionism.

This was certainly the case for me, growing up in an Asian household, we were expected to be “perfect”.

We were expected to get perfect grades.

We were expected to behave perfectly.

We were expected to be the perfect, respectful son.

Maybe it’s the need to impress or gain validation from our parents, who knows.

And because it was so ingrained in our brains that we have to be perfect all the time… that same longing for perfectness has also been bleeding into our dating lives.

We may subconsciously think that if the circumstances are not perfect when we approach the girl, it causes “failure”.

And the thought of “failing” and not being perfect is so painful that we refuse to take action and stay safe in our comfort zones.

This is just our brains and our body trying to protect us from this “childhood trauma”.

So if we want to stop beating ourselves up over not starting a conversation with women we find attractive...

Then we need to stop thinking that we’ll “bother” the girl because things aren’t “perfect”.

Instead, understand that by NOT approaching her, you’re doing the girl the biggest disservice because she’d be missing out on having such a great guy like you come into her life.

Because think of it like this…

Let’s say you have the cure to cancer. And you know that you could save this person’s life by giving them that cure. And if you don’t give it to them now, you’re never gonna be able to save their life.

Would you care that they’re on the phone with someone?

Would you care that they’re talking with their friend?

Would you care if they had another doctor?

Hell to the no!

You would scream, shout, interrupt, tell them to hang up and tell them that they’ll call the other person back, so on.

You’d do ANYTHING to make sure that the medicine gets in their hand.

Same applies in dating.

You’re a guy who’s worked so hard for the success in your career, your personal development, and you know you’re that loyal man who’s going to be a good husband and father one day.

So why wouldn’t you (AKA cure to cancer) come into that beautiful girl’s life?

This is an effective way to be able to approach the girl, because you’d feel worse for NOT approaching.

AND BY NOT APPROACHING THEM, YOU ARE ACTUALLY DOING THEM A DISFAVOR because they’re gonna be missing out on a great person.

These girls… whether you know it or not, have been waiting for a great guy like you to be a part of their lives, and it all starts with a conversation.

If that means that the situation could potentially be awkward in the beginning, that’s perfectly fine with them because you’d be adding so much value to their life.

When you’re able to consistently have this type of mindset, you should be able to go up and talk to that girl that gets you excited - even if you feel anxious in the beginning.

Changing your beliefs around approaching women, so that you can go up and talk to any girl in any social situation is one of the main things I address with my clients in my 8-week 1 on 1 program that takes single Asian guys to get into a long-term relationship with a girl they want to settle down with.

I also help you with building attraction with the girl after your approach, and then getting her number to set up a date.

Then I help you step-by-step on how to flirt over text to get her out on a date, that way the girl doesn’t ghost you and leave you disappointed.

As well as streamlining the date so you’ll know what to talk about, how to move things forward, etc. - that way you’ll have subsequent dates, leading to something more serious.

Send me a quick message if you’re interested in this program and let’s chat in messenger to see if I can help. Talk soon!