How to NOT Be in the FRIENDZONE

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“Let’s just be friends”

Guys, how many times have you heard these 4 soul crushing words?

Or perhaps you might be more familiar with the “You’re like a brother to me” causally tossed around by a girl you’ve developed feeling for.

You see, when it comes to dating, women tend to compartmentalize guys: some guys get put in the friend/platonic category, and others in the romantic category. 


However once a guy gets placed in the “friends” category it’s extremely hard for him to get into another one.

So I’m sure we can agree that it’s better to be placed in the romantic/date-able category than to fight tooth and nail to try to climb out of the friend zone.

With that being said here are a few things that you should do early on so that she sees you as someone she could date:

  1. DON’T PRETEND TO BE SOMEONE YOU’RE NOT- Don’t act differently when you’re with her, just so that you can seem “cool, mysterious or aloof” In reality you could been seen as try-hard and comes off as arrogant, disingenuous, and cold. Plus there’s nothing wrong with being yourself, I’m sure you have some great traits and lovable qualities :)

  2. DON’T ACT TOO NEEDY - Treat her with respect and integrity but don’t put her on a pedestal. A lot of times guys would make the mistake of being too available for her, like always making time or her (sometimes even canceling other plans for her) Don’t fall into the tra p of planning your life around her, she should not be the center of your universe. If you treat her like a celebrity she’s gonna treat you like a fan.

  3. MAKE YOUR INTENTIONS KNOWN- This could be as simple as asking her out on a date (and make sure she knows it’s a date haha)

    No one likes a guy that beats around the bush, so the best policy is to make your intentions known at the very beginning. Trust me I understand that as a guy you probably don’t have deep feelings for someone who you just met, because those feelings take time to form. (If you feel like there’s even a slight chance that you’d like to get involved with her romantically) then you should act upon it.

  4. ACT EARLY- A desirable trait that high value man exhibit is knowing what they want and going it. Act early so that she could place you in the romantic category and you don’t have to exert more effort to climb out of the friendzone.

Don’t wait till you’ve already met or hung out with her a few times to ask her out, by then she’s probably already lost her initial interest in you and placed have you in the friends category.

In this instance nothing is more unattractive than a guy who is always beating around the bush and never making a move.


Guys, the ladies want to feel special and wanted, (I’m sure the ladies can attest to this haha)

and by waiting for the “right moment” she’s gonna feel like your 2nd or 3rd option or worst of all unwanted.

The right moment is when you ask her out.

Now If you are someone who’s wants to be more than just a friend and go on dates with attractive like-minded women then send me a message/friend request.
https://www.facebook.com/aisen.li/

I love connecting with people and helping them realize their potentials and find love. 

Let’s be friends 

Talk soon. 🙂

Aisen Li